Weddings are supposed to be happy occasions, the most special moments of the couple’s life, right? There has to be that jittery, butterfly-in-stomach kind of feeling before the first night. In most cases, it is still there. But sadly, in some parts of our country, weddings are still mediums for downtrodding the female section of the society. In some orthodox cultures, still some weird customs are followed that make life for women a living hell after marriage.
In an incident that came into limelight which shows that chauvinism that still exists in many sections of Indian society. A man in Nasik district of Maharashtra ended his marriage barely within 48 hours just because his wife failed the so called “Virginity Test”.
In this village, like many other parts in India, a newly-married bride has to prove her virginity, not only to her husband, but to the entire village. Wait, that is not the worst part. The way this whole fiasco is conducted will leave you shocked.
The groom was given a white bed sheet a day after the marriage on May 22 and asked him to return it soon after the consummation of marriage. Discovering the used bed sheet returned without any trace of bloodstains, the caste panchayat deemed that the girl was not a virgin, and allowed the groom to terminate the relationship.
Seriously, is this a reason to walk out of a relationship which was tied for life. Also, how and why does it matter whether a girl is a virgin before her marriage or not?
Ohk, even if they thought she wasn’t virgin but did they try to know the actual reason beyond this? According to the news that came into light was that girl has been preparing for selection in the state police forces and was involved in strenuous physical activity such as running, cycling, long jump, and other exercises. And, it has been proved by the doctors that the hymen can break due to many other reasons apart from physical contact. But there is no way, that orthodox and illiterate people would understand this, and thus, practices as demeaning women as this, are still openly being followed freely around our country.
Thing is why always a woman is answerable to all such question. Have any such questions ever been put to a man? Are you a virgin? Have you had any relationships before your marriage? What? When? Why? Have they ever had to prove THEIR virginity to anybody, or pass any tests that proved it? The answer is a plain, simple NO! Then why always a woman who has to give the test. Sick people and their mindset.